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So I thought I’d tell you about the experience men have when they’re trying to “date like a grownup.” If you’ve read my e Book, you know that I believe strongly that empathizing with men is absolutely essential to your dating and relationship success.The definition of empathy is “the power of understanding and imaginatively entering into another person’s feelings. It wasn't until the next day that my friend revealed he was only 25. Meanwhile, I wanted to slide under the table and disappear. He obliged, and as we clinked glasses, I guessed he was in his early 30s.So the only way you really can empathize is to know their side of the story.Men and women are different in many ways, but we’re more the same than you may think. We all have dating disappointments and horror stories.Even though this guy and I were 25 years apart, we had a lot in common. I didn't know then that our age gap would define the relationship. I got that; but even though I knew there was no future, I didn’t cut it off completely. After it ended, he talked to a lot of people about our relationship -- and what happened through the grapevine was unexpected. Women judged me as having an ulterior, economic motive: “She just dated him for his money,” or “She thought she could get ahead.” In our society people are so quick to judge a young, naïve woman -- never the older man who perhaps should’ve known better too. We worked in the same profession, had similar interests, and shared common philosophical views. So what if he was wrinkly, in all the places you might expect? There was zero jealousy on both sides, and I never saw him check out another woman -- due to him being satisfied, of course, but also him being well-seasoned in how to respect the opposite sex. Another lesson in dating: a fling with someone in your professional/personal circle is more often than not bad news. I have a friend who’s been married to someone for more than a decade who is 20 years older than her.
This is because one of the top traits women look for in a man is passion, whether it’s to do with a hobby, a sport, or what he does for a living.You’ll be surprised to see how interested she’ll be in what makes you tick.It’s one thing to be relaxed about personal grooming and, let’s face it, a bit of stubble now and then can be a definite positive.When dating a woman for the first time, it can be hard to tell what exactly she’s looking for in a dating partner.That’s why, when it comes to making a first impression, it’s a good idea to take this dating advice: consider what she won’t want.